CODEPENDENCY RESTRICTS YOUR SOULS GROWTH

Dear Mom,

I am writing this newsletter to you this week because your legacy has recently taught
me so much about my own soul's growth. You won’t be able to read this, though.

Since 2017, you have been in the deathly grip of this terrible condition called
dementia. It has been heartbreaking to watch you decline.

The reason I chose to write about you this week is that I finally understand how much
you sacrificed for me and my brother so that we could grow and learn beyond you.
Growing up in your household meant that we were loving and affectionate. However,
when it came to the world outside our home, you taught us relentless codependency.

You cared so much about what others thought that you sacrificed your own soul's
growth. There were many things I learned from you that I later had to unlearn. That
doesn’t mean there aren’t parts of myself I love because of you, but learning
codependency has not served me well on my journey. It has caused me to repeatedly
relearn aspects of who I am.

I want you to know that I have recently released this old pattern I inherited from you.
I’ve done the work on myself to acknowledge and understand my own behaviors and
how I show up in the world. I have learned to love myself enough to honor my
feelings without the fear of what others will think. Now, I wake up each day and
choose the more authentic path for my soul. I realize this path won’t be simple or
easy, but I know that by choosing to honor my feelings, I am now fully honoring you
and our ancestors.

I love you.

Your son,
Matthew